I woke up on February 12th more excited than I had been in a very long time.
I WAS GETTING MARRIED TODAY!!!!
Our wedding wasn't till the late afternoon so our morning was pretty usual, got up, fed Kendra and changed her, watched some tv. I hadn't heard from any of my friends about attending the wedding so I decided to make a few calls, by the time I was done, I was a blubbering mess.
none of my family was coming, none of my friends were coming, I was on my own. I ended up finding one person who would be able to come, a girl I didn't know well, she had been in my circle of friends but we hadn't been what you would call close friends. She was now my only guest at the wedding and had offered to be my maid of honor.....which I took her up on. Part of me was crushed, my best friends refused to be a part of my wedding, they all thought we were making a mistake. I decided I wasn't going to allow myself to be upset, today wasn't about them, it was about Richard and me.
A friend of Richards family who was a hair dresser came out to our apartment and did my hair for me, and stayed with Kendra and I while Richard left to get ready at the church with his brother who was going to be his best man. At 6:30 I left my apartment to head to the church to get married. I was ushered into a woman's rest room to finish getting ready, my soon to be mother in law walked in with my maid of honor and she had a garter for me and my veil, the same one she wore when she married my soon to be father in law the year before (long story, don't ask). There was a knock on the bathroom door and it was Grandpa A, Richard had told him that no one from my family was showing up and he wanted to offer to walk me down the isle, I took him up on it.
15 minutes later I heard the music start, Richards cousin was going to play green peace on the piano. It was time. I took Grandpa A's arm and let him lead me down the isle to the man I was getting ready to spend the rest of my life with. I somehow managed to get through the vows without crying, and had to hold back from giggling when I noticed how nervous Richard was......It didn't help his nerves when the pastor said to kiss the bride and he gave me a peck of the lips and the pastor looked at him and said, I have met your daughter, I know you can do better than that. Richards face turned 20 different shades of red, then grabbed me around my waist and kissed me a good one.
I was now a wife.......and I couldn't have been happier.
Next was our small reception which was more like a baby shower than it was a wedding reception. there were gifts wrapped in baby shower paper all sitting on this large table against a far wall and a half dozen round tables with chairs around the room. against the opposite wall where the gifts were was a table holding our wedding cake, three tears, white and blue with a traditional topper. It wasn't fancy but it was free thanks to Richards other grandparents and it would get the job done. We got a ton of gifts for the baby and a few for our apartment, all very nice things that we were grateful for.
After we were done opening the gifts and cutting out cake Richard took me around introducing me to the rest of his family and family friends, something seemed off because every time we would walk up to a table people would stop talking......I was starting to feel insecure. Richard had his brother go around and see if he could find something out about what everyone was whispering about. About 30 minutes later he came back and said that everyone was taking bets on how long the marriage would last......and as far as he could tell the longest anyone gave us was a year. Richard was pissed and wanted to say something, but I told him our revenge would be to prove the entire room wrong. We ended up leaving our own reception early not really wanting to be around people taking bets on our marriages demise.
We stopped by Hollywood video on the way home in our wedding attire and rented a few movies, went home popped popcorn and watched movies the rest of the night while Kendra was fast asleep in her room.
Monday, June 29, 2015
Let the manipulation continue Chapter 27
Even from 1,792.3 miles away Kym was still trying to pull the strings. She knew since I was 18 she really couldn't do much but that wasn't going to stop her from trying.
The officer said we would have to come with him to the police station, I didn't want Kendra there so I asked if we could drop her off with Richards mom and meet them at the station. The officer said I had to go with him but that Richard could drop her off and then come in afterward.
I went with the officer, I asked him questions about what was going on and he wouldn't answer any of my questions. When we got to the station I was taken to what looked like a conference room and told to wait there. Not very long after a detective walked in, I was already fuming by this point and asked him why I was there. He said that my mother had called the police station in Buena Park and told them I had ran away from home and she thought I would go to California, that she thought I was able to do it with a fake ID.....I couldn't help but laugh. He got a bit upset with me and said that this wasn't something to laugh about, my mother was very concerned about me...........that made me laugh even harder.
I explained to the detective that I had turned 18 on the 25th and that the day after my birthday I had snuck out to the airport and left for California, and I explained why I had done it the way that I did. that Kym wasn't concerned about me, she was just gets off on making things harder for me. He said it would be easy enough to find out by running my social security number.....I gave it to him and waited. When he came back in he said that my story checked out, but the man I was with was still being questioned so i would have to stay in the room till they were done with him. When I asked what he was being questioned for he said my mother had also said that this man was forcing me to make the decision to leave home and was using the daughter we shared against me so I would agree to whatever he said. I told him that I had been with Richard for 3 years and he wasn't forcing me to do anything, he then said that Kym wanted to press charges for statutory rape.......I about lost it right there in front of the detective. He said it would be in my best interest to calm down and wait till they were done with their investigation.
I sat and cried, terrified that the man I loved was going to be arrested. Two hours later the detective came in and said I was free to leave....I said what about Richard? he said he is waiting for you out front. I said (sarcastically) that's awesome can we go get our marriage certificate now and not be harassed? He said sure but we wouldn't getting it today, the clerks office was closed now.
I was so mad I just broke down crying. Richard said it was okay that we would go the next morning. That wasn't the point, the point was that my own mother was hell bent on disrupting my life and hurting me.
The next morning we went to the clerks office and got our marriage certificate. It was a huge relief, it felt like since we had that no matter what Kym did, she couldn't stop us now. When we got home there was a message on out answering machine from Grandma A.......The date had been set, February 12th at 7pm......It was happening, in less than a week I would be married. It felt almost surreal.
The officer said we would have to come with him to the police station, I didn't want Kendra there so I asked if we could drop her off with Richards mom and meet them at the station. The officer said I had to go with him but that Richard could drop her off and then come in afterward.
I went with the officer, I asked him questions about what was going on and he wouldn't answer any of my questions. When we got to the station I was taken to what looked like a conference room and told to wait there. Not very long after a detective walked in, I was already fuming by this point and asked him why I was there. He said that my mother had called the police station in Buena Park and told them I had ran away from home and she thought I would go to California, that she thought I was able to do it with a fake ID.....I couldn't help but laugh. He got a bit upset with me and said that this wasn't something to laugh about, my mother was very concerned about me...........that made me laugh even harder.
I explained to the detective that I had turned 18 on the 25th and that the day after my birthday I had snuck out to the airport and left for California, and I explained why I had done it the way that I did. that Kym wasn't concerned about me, she was just gets off on making things harder for me. He said it would be easy enough to find out by running my social security number.....I gave it to him and waited. When he came back in he said that my story checked out, but the man I was with was still being questioned so i would have to stay in the room till they were done with him. When I asked what he was being questioned for he said my mother had also said that this man was forcing me to make the decision to leave home and was using the daughter we shared against me so I would agree to whatever he said. I told him that I had been with Richard for 3 years and he wasn't forcing me to do anything, he then said that Kym wanted to press charges for statutory rape.......I about lost it right there in front of the detective. He said it would be in my best interest to calm down and wait till they were done with their investigation.
I sat and cried, terrified that the man I loved was going to be arrested. Two hours later the detective came in and said I was free to leave....I said what about Richard? he said he is waiting for you out front. I said (sarcastically) that's awesome can we go get our marriage certificate now and not be harassed? He said sure but we wouldn't getting it today, the clerks office was closed now.
I was so mad I just broke down crying. Richard said it was okay that we would go the next morning. That wasn't the point, the point was that my own mother was hell bent on disrupting my life and hurting me.
The next morning we went to the clerks office and got our marriage certificate. It was a huge relief, it felt like since we had that no matter what Kym did, she couldn't stop us now. When we got home there was a message on out answering machine from Grandma A.......The date had been set, February 12th at 7pm......It was happening, in less than a week I would be married. It felt almost surreal.
Its all happening so fast!!! Chapter 26
A few days later Richard took me to his work place to meet his grandfather, I was again so nervous I about threw up in the car pulling up to the building. Richard took me inside and walked me back to his grandfathers office, AND LEFT ME THERE!!!! Grandpa A had me come in and sit down, he wanted to talk to me......great.
I sat down and he said.......SO why wont the two of you get married.....I didnt know what to say, I just kind of sat there and said well we want to, we were planning on saving for a year and have a nice small wedding that we can afford. He stopped me and said thats not acceptable, it needs to happen now. The smart ass in me jumped in and I said well you know thats not possible, you sign his paycheck. Thankfully he laughed. He said Richards grandma and I have discussed it and we want to pay for a wedding so you two can get married now, what do you say? I said well thats something I would need to discuess with Richard first. He got on the intercom and he called for Richard to come into the office, Richard didnt even fully get through the door before he said......so Grandma and I are going to pay for your wedding, hows next week for you? Richard just stood there stunned and looked at me, I just shrugged my shoulders.......Richard said ummmmmm yeah that sounds good. Grandpa A said ok great Grandma and I will set the arrangements and let you know, I have work to do, let me see this baby and then you need to get going, he handed me $500 and said you have dress shopping to do. I was seriously just stunned, just in complete shock.
After Grandpa A fawned over the baby for about 10 min we left and went dress shopping. It was quickly realised there was no way I was going to be getting an actual wedding dress by the next week so we headed to the mall and I went into Macys and to the prom dress department. I found a very pretty white and silver halter prom dress that fit nicely, so I got it. It was on sale for $40. Then went into payless and found some cute silver strappy sandle heals that went with the dress nicely and got those for $20, headed over to a tux rental place and rented Richards tux and shoes......that was $150.......were just over $200 now, there is still $300 left. I told Richard to take the rest back to his grandfather.
Richard got home from work the next day and handed me the cash, his grandfather wouldnt take it back, said for me to go get my nails done or whatever it is girls do before a wedding, and keep the rest for me.....so I did, I went and got my nails done, my toes done and saved the rest.
Richard got the next day off from work so we could go to the county clerks office and file for out marriage certificate. We stood in line for what felt like hours, got up to the clerk gave them out photo ID's, she ran out names, got a worried look on her face and said to please wait while she got a supervisor, since I had an out of state ID she had to have it approved.
The next thing I know an police officer is coming around to us and pulled us to some back room, he said that when the clerk ran my name that it came up as flagged as a run away, and they had reason to believe my ID was fake........ARE YOU KIDDING ME?!?!?!?!
This REEKED of Kym.
I sat down and he said.......SO why wont the two of you get married.....I didnt know what to say, I just kind of sat there and said well we want to, we were planning on saving for a year and have a nice small wedding that we can afford. He stopped me and said thats not acceptable, it needs to happen now. The smart ass in me jumped in and I said well you know thats not possible, you sign his paycheck. Thankfully he laughed. He said Richards grandma and I have discussed it and we want to pay for a wedding so you two can get married now, what do you say? I said well thats something I would need to discuess with Richard first. He got on the intercom and he called for Richard to come into the office, Richard didnt even fully get through the door before he said......so Grandma and I are going to pay for your wedding, hows next week for you? Richard just stood there stunned and looked at me, I just shrugged my shoulders.......Richard said ummmmmm yeah that sounds good. Grandpa A said ok great Grandma and I will set the arrangements and let you know, I have work to do, let me see this baby and then you need to get going, he handed me $500 and said you have dress shopping to do. I was seriously just stunned, just in complete shock.
After Grandpa A fawned over the baby for about 10 min we left and went dress shopping. It was quickly realised there was no way I was going to be getting an actual wedding dress by the next week so we headed to the mall and I went into Macys and to the prom dress department. I found a very pretty white and silver halter prom dress that fit nicely, so I got it. It was on sale for $40. Then went into payless and found some cute silver strappy sandle heals that went with the dress nicely and got those for $20, headed over to a tux rental place and rented Richards tux and shoes......that was $150.......were just over $200 now, there is still $300 left. I told Richard to take the rest back to his grandfather.
Richard got home from work the next day and handed me the cash, his grandfather wouldnt take it back, said for me to go get my nails done or whatever it is girls do before a wedding, and keep the rest for me.....so I did, I went and got my nails done, my toes done and saved the rest.
Richard got the next day off from work so we could go to the county clerks office and file for out marriage certificate. We stood in line for what felt like hours, got up to the clerk gave them out photo ID's, she ran out names, got a worried look on her face and said to please wait while she got a supervisor, since I had an out of state ID she had to have it approved.
The next thing I know an police officer is coming around to us and pulled us to some back room, he said that when the clerk ran my name that it came up as flagged as a run away, and they had reason to believe my ID was fake........ARE YOU KIDDING ME?!?!?!?!
This REEKED of Kym.
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