Friday, May 16, 2014

What happens now? "chapter 7"

Kym ended up marrying Tom a few months after the move. She called once a week, and somehow me and my brother not being with her was MY fault. Kym would lay guilt trips on me every conversation. Grams and pop were finaly able to get a court order for supervised phonecalls. They were schedualed weekly, we had to go to what looked like a drs office (I later found out it was a cps office) and go in a room with two phones. When Kym would call a lady would be on the second phone listining in and if at any time she felt my mother was saying anything that could be upsetting to me or my brother the calls were terminated. At first Kym called every week, then it wasnt every week, we would go to the office and sit there and wait for a call that would never come. Finaly we were told we could stop going to the office because the judge saw it as pointless as she wasnt calling anyway. I didnt hear from my Kym till I was 10. She was in California for a vacation and she came to grams and pops house and demanded to see Dakota and I. Because of the joint custody grams and pop didnt have any choice but to let her see us. My mom decided that she was going to take me and my brother back to Tennessee for the remander of the summer, again my grands had no choice but to let us go.

Off to tennessee we went for a month, I was absolutly terrified that Kym wasnt going to bring us back home, so much so I had such anxiety that I was vomiting and had diareah daily. While in Tennessee it was obvious that Kym was back in almost the same situation she was when she was with Randy. Tom was an alcoholic and was very verbily abusive to Kym, I suspected physical abuse but during that visit I didn't see it. The visit was just awkward,  I didn't know how to "be" with Kym, she was a stranger to me, there was no relationship there. I counted down the days till I was able to go home and finally that day came. Kym took me and Dakota to the airport and put me on a plain, but not my brother. She had gotten me a two way ticket but only got my brother a one way. When the plain landed in California grams and pop saw that it was only me, they were heart broken. My grams cried herself to sleep every night for I don't even know how long. Kym wasnt allowing phone calls and kept my Dakota from us for almost a year when one day.......he just called. We got weekly phone calls from him after that.


I think that year took alot out of my grams and pop, not knowing where Dakota was, what he was doing or how he was. Being able to hear from him helped but just knowing that Kym had him,  after her showing over and over what kind of mother she was really put a stress on them that took a toll on there health. 

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